Secrets of True Love
It’s not his job to make me happy, and it’s not my job to make him happy.
Happiness is an inside job
Some of us want our partner to be responsible for our well being. We blame them for our misery and credit them with our joy, when the truth is, our misery and our joy are far beyond their ability to control. We need to find those things within ourselves.
Our approach is simple. We figure we’ll have 80 or 90 years here on planet Earth in this lifetime. We further figure we have the absolute right, maybe even the obligation, to live those years doing what we most want to be doing. If that means I spend all day planting flowers or writing words, and he spends all day welding metal and souping up cars, that’s okay. Nobody is going to give anybody any guilt about how we choose to spend our time.
I can be happy doing my own thing, and he can be happy doing his, and it’s sincere and deep and real.